Difference between dating and hanging out
There's nothing wrong with that."I asked Jake again, to talk about what he thinks is 'hanging out.' He responded with the "in-betweeners", which he said were events that you did before something better happened, like midday coffee or drinks."You can grab coffee whenever and you nearly always head somewhere else after having drinks.
If we make plans to get together, it's a date to me — no matter how big or small."Though only 22 percent of the singles surveyed feel like "if I'm asked, then it's date," it seems that guys feel like spending time one-on-one with you is a date. "God," Anthony 33, says right off the bat, "I f*cking hate that term. "I've met girls that want to 'hang out,' and typically, they're the type that are the non-committables.For many years the Church has counseled young people not to date before age 16.Perhaps some young adults, especially men, have carried that wise counsel to excess and determined not to date before 26 or maybe even 36.I did it once and it was actually a lot of fun — I'd definitely do it again," says Mark, 25. I asked the same four guys above what they dreaded about a bad date.Nearly all of them said, "coffee and drinks," because the timing is off and it leaves too much pressure on the what-comes-after decision.twentysomething Peter Pans.” Putting this analysis in terms more familiar to his audience of BYU graduates and their families, Elder Tingey spoke of “the indecision some college graduates have in …
accepting the responsibilities of marriage and family.” This tendency to postpone adult responsibilities, including marriage and family, is surely visible among our Latter-day Saint young adults.
"I've come to this conclusion: If I ask you out, or if you ask me out, and it's just the two of us, and we're doing something at a set time (like grabbing dinner or brunch or heading to a movie or a museum), then it's a date.
I dread those in-betweener's (like 'drinks' and 'coffee') because they're not really dates to me."Josh, 28, agrees. Not all guys see dates the same way, which makes it more and more confusing to both parties involved.
Something like a wine-and-painting class, where you bring your own wine and paint.
There's other people there, so it feels like less pressure, but the alcohol and the painting help you loosen up and get to know each other.
The 'In-betweeners' are prime 'hang out' times."So, what makes a great date? It's a full meal, you can have drinks, you're sitting, really getting to know someone, it can be as intimate or as laidback as you like," says Micah, 29."Dinner somewhere, dessert somewhere else, and a movie.