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In a world where Christians don't know whether they're dating, courting, hanging out, living together, or just having sex, Illian exposes the naked truth about relationships. All pages are undamaged with no significant creases or tears. We ship within 1 business day and offer no hassle returns.

They are going to see those types of things sooner.You are going to have to wade through it all, because if your light shines, it shines for everybody.You can’t just shine it in a specific corner for just certain people to see.I don’t want to become a Christian when you use God as a defense and it is insulting to what we believe. The problem is that when you break up, you need to go back to the castle to start the process all over again. You can love with the idea of someone at first sight, but you don’t get to know somebody’s heart by simply seeing them across the room.I think we need to take personal responsibility if we make a mistake and say, ‘I made that mistake.’ How long after you have broken up should you start dating again? For some of us, it is going to take longer than others because whether we lie dead on the battlefield for a while or whether we get up and start walking slowly, I think that the longer you have been in a relationship, the more time that you are going to need to spend time walking through it. And even the first conversation, there are people who are great smooth talkers, very charismatic.We need men to step up and be the leaders they are designed to be. It doesn’t magically happen when you get married, but that is what we are assuming. Let’s take all of the pain, let’s take all of the confusion, and let’s take all of that out. We add to the confusion because we don’t know who is seeing whom and we are not calling it dating, so we are cultivating intimacy without cultivating commitment and it is causing a real problem. I am giving you the benefit of the doubt by giving you four dates. But in those three or four dates, if you are seeing two or three different people, I think that is OK. A friendship ends and dating begins when intimacy is cultivated between two people. I think guys need to do a better job of voicing when this is going to start – ‘Is this an intimate relationship? We connect when it is physical or we have actually talked about it and said it because we are segmented in how we talk. While guys should bring it up, if they don’t bring it up, the women need to say something like, ‘Is this a friendship, or are we going somewhere else with this?

But after that three or four dates and it’s now this smorgasbord of dating whomever I want and seeing what I can get out of it, that is a recipe for disaster. ’ Women, on the other hand, they understand emotional intimacy, when two people are communicating and sharing their hearts. ’ On what basis should someone choose a future mate?

You talk a little about group dating and why that doesn’t work. You would be surprised at the number of places that I speak at across the country that promote group dating. I really think that in the first three or four times that you go out with somebody that is the get-to-know-you period.

And the biggest thing that I learned over the last ten years is that it allows men to be passive. There shouldn’t be any we went out once and so we are dating, unless you talk about it or you have been physical or something of that nature. Once you have started dating, it doesn’t even take three or four.

When you have both of those sides and you are able to balance it, I think that is the godly life that God has created us for. They think, ‘It’s not going to work, it’s got to be my way,’ instead of just saying, ‘God, I don’t know what I am doing. Help heal my heart so I can love more fully and more completely in the next relationship.’ So breakups can in a way be a good thing if you are willing to allow God to work in your life and know that it is not on your time frame. In the Christian world, we have stopped taking personal accountability for what we do – ‘I have prayed about this, and I have decided that God doesn’t want us to be together.’ The other person is left holding the ball because what do you say? Well, then, that must be right.’ God is not making us do anything. Be honest and say, ‘This is the part of our relationship that we have worked on. I think it is best for us to go our own ways.’ But when you throw God in, it devalues our faith.

And you wonder why other people don’t want to be Christians! I refer to it in the book as “walking back to the castle.” When you ride off into the distance with somebody, the longer you ride, the farther away from the castle you are going to be.

The foundation is godly characteristics, the fruit of the Spirit. Some people are dating because they say that they are Christians or they say they go to church. Unless you see somebody’s life and that life bears fruit, it bears the fruit of the Spirit, you don’t really know what that person is about.